Affirmations for the Inner Child

Affirmations for the Inner Child

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Apr 1, 1990

Product Description All of us need positive affirmation throughout our lives. As children, these powerful messages helped us to know that we were worthwhile, that it was all right to want food and to be touched, and that our very existence was a precious gift. The messages that we received from our parents helped us to form decisions that determined the course of our lives. If we were raised with consistent, nurturing parents, we conclude that life is meaningful and that people are to be trusted. If we were raised with parents who were addictively or compulsively ill, we determine that life is threatening and chaotic--that we are not deserving of joy. These are the crucial decisions that impact our lives long after we have forgotten them. Unfortunately, childhood judgments don't disappear. They remain as dynamic forces that contaminate our adulthood. When childhood needs are not taken care of because of abuse or abandonment, we spend our lives viewing the world through the distorted perception of a needy infant or an angry adolescent. The more we push these child parts away, the more control they have over us. This collection of daily meditations is dedicated to those adults who are ready to heal their childhood wounds. It is through this courageous effort that we will move from a life of pain into recovery. About the Author Rokelle Lerner is a psychotherapist, international consultant and lecturer on relationships, women's issues and family systems. Ms. Lerner is the co-creator and facilitator of the InnerPath Programs for Cottonwood de Tucson. Over the last fifteen years Rokelle has worked as a consultant in London for Spring Workshops ltd and has created seminars for men and women in recovery from trauma, addiction and relationship issues. Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved. JANUARY 1 New Year's Day This year I will create positive memories. Today is the dawn of a new year. It is the day when many people reflect on the past and how they will change in the coming year. For many, it is a day of hope and new beginnings. For me, it has often been a day of terror as I face all the days that stretch out before me. Will I fail? Will I fall back into old destructive patterns of behavior? This day reminds me of the alcoholism I would rather forget. Memories of childhood disappointments, arguments and violence mar the festivities of this day. This day I will look back only to rejoice in what I have accomplished in the year past. I will concentrate only on today. I will make the best decisions I can for this day alone, not trying to tackle my whole future. This year I will create positive memories to replace the old.

This book is like having a kind, caring friend with you each day, encouraging you while you are working on yourself, trying to break negative childhood patterns, and live a healthier, happier life as an adult. Each affirmation proposes that you speak to yourself in a kind, non-judgmental way, and hits on issues like low-self esteem, feeling "not good enough," feeling like you don't have your life together, feeling like you don't "do enough," etc. It focuses on helping you reprogram from hurtful and harmful messages a person has ingrained in themselves from childhood, due to a dysfunctional family and/or abusive/neglectful parents. It is a wonderful tool for anyone attending ACA groups (Adult Children of Alcoholics - but your parent doesn't actually have to have been an alcoholic, anyone with dysfunctional/neglectful/abusive parents meets the mission of who ACA is aimed at serving).The affirmations are for individual days, but you don't have to use the book that way - you can read it all in one sitting, thumb through each day until you find one or two affirmations that particularly speak to you, or any other way that makes sense to you.While the book feels a little dated, that's only natural since it was published in 1990. But that doesn't detract from the core messages that are helpful and hopeful.